I have taken care of an 8 year old since she was 8 mo old. Many times, it’s been 24/7. I love her like she’s my own. Her mom lets me do whatever I want with her. Last month, my grandson moved close to me and I care for his 3 year old. When both spend the night, the 8 year old, whom I’ve always laid down with till she goes to sleep, will insist that the baby not sleep next to me. She will cry and tell me that I love the baby more than her. I tried to tell her that she loves her mom and she loves me, she can love us both. She said, “No, I love you more.” She has repeatedly told me that she wants me to adopt her. On one occasion, the baby called me mom grandma, response was “You are my mom.” I said, “If I’m your mom, who is your mother?” She said, “She’s my aunt.” I’ve always done many things with her like taking her to local playgrounds and attractions, trips etc. Her mother says she never has time. We invited her to go to a local attraction last week, giving her 2 hours notice and her response was, “I haven’t had my shower.” This has happened so many times over the 8 years, so we just go ahead and do our thing. I think this causes 8 year old to be jealous.
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